Sunday night I set up a special screening of Carp Rock - a short vid I put together featuring Nirvana laid down under some radical carp footage. Em was impressed. James was impressed further.... and he asked me to replay it ~8 times. At some point during this showing, he said this, with solemn expression:
"I wish I could be there."

That one line just melted me, crushed me, and inflated me all at once... wow. Sorry that he wasn't there, and happy that he wanted to be there. Anyway, the long and short of it is that it crystallized a change that I knew was coming: if that guy wants to go fishing when I'm going fishing, he's going fishing. Like in the movie Blow, when Carl Jung asks his dad to go to work with him... and the Dad's coworkers give him crap over it... he silences them with something like "Hey - if my kid wants to come to work with me, he's coming to work with me." Or something close to that anyway...

Seems like the best approach here is to offer it up every time, and if he wants to come along, change plans accordingly. Don't force it on him, but make it available to him.

This guy is truly an amazing kid.