Tuesday, February 12, 2008

Sunday night I set up a special screening of Carp Rock - a short vid I put together featuring Nirvana laid down under some radical carp footage. Em was impressed. James was impressed further.... and he asked me to replay it ~8 times. At some point during this showing, he said this, with solemn expression:
"I wish I could be there."

That one line just melted me, crushed me, and inflated me all at once... wow. Sorry that he wasn't there, and happy that he wanted to be there. Anyway, the long and short of it is that it crystallized a change that I knew was coming: if that guy wants to go fishing when I'm going fishing, he's going fishing. Like in the movie Blow, when Carl Jung asks his dad to go to work with him... and the Dad's coworkers give him crap over it... he silences them with something like "Hey - if my kid wants to come to work with me, he's coming to work with me." Or something close to that anyway...

Seems like the best approach here is to offer it up every time, and if he wants to come along, change plans accordingly. Don't force it on him, but make it available to him.

This guy is truly an amazing kid.

13 Comments:

Blogger Terry said...

Great post - that's what every dad wants to hear.

Any chance of this video making it to the web?

8:49 AM  
Blogger MN Justin said...

He really got me with that one.

The vid may make it to the web... not sure yet.

12:37 PM  
Blogger amanda & co. said...

your a great dad, justin.

10:47 AM  
Blogger zonker said...

Treasure the moment. Slow down your own pace. Let him set his pace. Care more about his enjoyment than your own fishing. Take lots of photos and videos. Make good memories.

Somehow I already know you'll do these things.

zonker

12:34 AM  
Blogger MN Justin said...

I appreciate the thoughts and encouragement.

I'm a rookie. Analysis to determine the best approach to parenting is ongoing...

We just talked again this AM about fishing, and JD said he really wants to get out.

Two mornings ago he said to me "You're a clever monkey in the world, Dad." HA - that inflated my ego a bit.

10:11 AM  
Blogger john montana said...

For the record, Carp Rocks is a 5 star video! Excellent work J. We'll get some more footage this year.

Love to hear that from James. I love those moments where your kids floor you like that...they come from nowhere and just knock you on your butt. Elia did that to me the other day with her "reluctant to leave all of these fish comment." She got me today too, I'll put it up on the blog.

I can't wait to hear more stories of you, James and Daniel fishing!

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